Cultural influence on dating
While it may not be for all and love marriages in India are not unheard of or a rare sighting by any means…arranged marriages aren’t necessarily a bad thing either!
Here are some points to better understand the Culture of Arranged Marriages in India: Although most westerners cannot fathom marrying someone they do not love, it is incredibly interesting to note that arranged marriages is not something which is fought against, or a source of protest among the young of India.
It can be said that an arranged marriage in India is not based on feelings, but rather on commitment.
An Indian woman described it as “Here, we get married without having feelings for the person.
When people think of arranged marriages, they often picture a boy or girl forced into a relationship in which they have absolutely no choice.
However, in reality, this is simply not the case, before the marriage becomes official the potential bride and groom have the opportunity to meet each other and decide whether or not a relationship is something that they would wish to pursue.
Arranged marriages have always been a debatable subject.
It is the father’s responsibility to choose and make the arrangements for a husband for his daughter.It’s not like the couple see each other on the wedding day for the first time or just once before the wedding. There is usually a period of months or even a year or more after the couple are engaged and before the wedding, where the couple get to know each other, meet, talk and discuss the future.This time after the engagement to the wedding day is sort of the dating period for the couple.Also, since the majority of Indians are Hindu, and Hindu’s believe strongly in astrology, the perspective couple’s horoscopes are be analyzed and “suitably matched” or the marriage cannot take place.Additionally, the father will want to make sure that his daughter is marrying into a good family, so a lot of investigation takes place before the arrangements are made.
It might seem like an easy matter for a father to arrange his daughter’s marriage, but religion and caste systems make it a daunting task.