Dating a man who is always broke
I think it's normal to want to go have experiences with a new partner and your friends. Maybe you can occasionally splurge on event tickets or something so you guys can go sometimes?
My take on money/broke men (as a woman)If a man is broke due to circumstance (child support, paying off school loans, getting an education, whatever) but he is responsible and hard working then I don't care.
I'm not foolish enough to think that's a workable situation.
However, if by "if the situations were switched" you mean that you could pay for trips and plays, but you are choosing not to because it's his place as a man to do that, then yeah, that's hella sexist. Growing up was a split hair above the poverty line for most of my childhood.
Those traits are not likely to change and I don't need a project .
If a man is broke due to circumstance (child support, paying off school loans, getting an education, whatever) but he is responsible and hard working then I don't care. If he was actually channeling his energy into meaningful work that made a difference, and/or doing his best to increase his income so he could start to chip away at his loans, it may have ended differently.
He's intelligent, educated and seems to have a decent work ethic, but still balanced priorities. We make about the same amount of money but he pays child support and I get child support. I don't mind paying for myself or taking turns.
If you mean that together you still can't afford it then yes, I can see very well how it would feel constraining, because it feels constraining solo, even w/o the desire to share those experiences with a partner.
I am not even trying to date because I can't provide anyone anything but me, literally, like, me and my company and nothing else.
If it's a really long term situation, then that might be problematic as resentment might grow along the way.
In my own situation, I can't really afford to go out and most of my discretionary money is spent doing activities with my son.
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