Wheelchair user dating
When I was asking him about what it's like for him, an able-bodied person, diving into this world, he told me about a gentleman who was in a chair and talked to him about sexuality in the disabled community.
I said, 'Oh my gosh Ben, you need to do a movie about this.' No one wants to talk about sex in a wheelchair. They’re too scared."He was hesitant at first, but every time I saw him I said, 'You need to do this.
What people don’t understand is that you’re this sexual being at your core and then all of a sudden something happens that paralyzes you and that doesn’t change who you are overnight.
The first thing I thought when I was in the hospital was 'How am I going to make love to my husband?
There are no same-sex couples or information for couples where both partners are in a chair."There has been this stereotype, maybe because of media, that being in a chair isn't sexy.
If I ask you right now when’s the last time you saw a movie with a disabled man or woman in a loving relationship, you probably couldn't think of anything.
They're simulating what sex looks like for them on a typical night for director Ben Duffy's upcoming documentary, All of that dragging around the bed might seem aggressive, but it's necessary.
Rockwood is paralyzed from the neck down, which means that she can't move her body into sexual positions without her boyfriend's help.
"Because if I'm with the right person, I don't even feel like I'm paralyzed.""I met Ben [Duffy] on another project for the disabled community.
There isn’t that image of a woman in a chair being sexy.
There wasn’t anything out there that gave you that idea.
We need to get it out there to educate and bring life to this.' It’s been an amazing journey for him.
I've seen a transformation — as an abled-bodied man he had his perspective of sexuality and love in the disabled community. A mind stretched by new ideas can never return to its original dimensions, you know?